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I didn’t mean to go off and leave for so long. I hope you didn’t hold your breath waiting. Although it would? make me feel good if you at least attempted.
You see, I’ve been bombarded with little shit….Well, don’t start me to lying. I just needed a break….Okay, I’ll be thoroughly honest…I don’t have an excuse at all. I went skipping to the loo and all them kinda whatnots. I spent some time developing new ideas,?working on the re-design of my website?and well…watching Lifetime. I’ve been trying to figure out a way to get into trouble but if I have to think about it this hard, I probably won’t be too good at it.
As for my latest and greatest adventures, I met this woman yesterday?who got the hell on my nerves. Have you ever been engaged in a meeting and folk keep tapping you on the shoulder for some whatnot or another?
Well, I was late getting to the meeting and The Woman figured I didn’t know what was going on. Well, of course I didn’t, being near 30 minutes late ’cause I couldn’t find the place on account?of?the address being even-numbered and on the odd side of the road and outta order but that’s not the direction I want to take you.
The Woman, during the remaining time I was there, took it upon herself to ensure I knew what was going on. EVERY. TEN. MINUTES. She got on my nerves so damn bad, I had to clamp my arm down hard against my side so I wouldn’t put her ass?in a headlock. It took me all of about two or three minutes to surmise what was happening but this woman, apparently, didn’t think my elevator went all the way up. And truth be told,?it doesn’t always but hell, I was thinking the same about her after she tapped me the third time.? (Rolling the hell outta my eyes)
Dear folks, how do you handle someone who pesters you as such? Should I take my sneakers and vaseline to deal with this woman next week?
Signed,
Don’t Start Nothin’, Won’t Be Nothin’
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There were teachers like this at faculty meetings and the principal would call me in and rant accusing me of rudeness. It was never the kids, always stuff like this that was the downside of being a teacher.
I can clearly explain why your principal singled you out….You had it going on with them women teachers and they flocked to you your debonairness and such. You know how it goes, Carl. Hain’ the playa and the game.
There are only two (maybe three) ways to deal with a person of this nature.
1. Assume she wants to be your friend. Explain kindly to her all your friend spots are taken but you would be happy to take her application and let her know when you have an opening. This approach will let her know you are popular and special, she will correct her behavior in the hopes you consider her friend material.
2. Assume she is crazy and provide her with a recommendation to local hospitals and doctors who deal with her kind of crazy. You might also throw in a minister or two, just in case her kind of crazy is demon possession. This will let her know you are kind and caring but not equipped to assist her in regaining her health and well-being.
3. Assume she is a busy-body and dumb as a box of rocks to boot. Explain to her in small words you have zero patience for her kind of behavior and you will find it necessary to bring on the special calling out the bad if she doesn’t correct herself immediately and get up out of your face.
You could of course combine any of these to make your own solution. Good luck.
I’m gonna assume all three points on some level. I just had a most wicked thought…Maybe if I acted like I was gonna regurgitate my breakfast, she’d get outta dodge but then, if she’s crazy, she may start acting like my caretaker. You might wanna write a self-help book on this kinda thing. Real good points to consider and help folk out with.
I love the honesty in this piece!
Thank you, Shawn.
“I was worried last time when I was late that I wouldn’t be able to catch on to what’s going on. Thanks for trying to help me out. I always worry though that the boss might get kind of annoyed at so many rehashes I’ll just jot down any questions and ask you later. But really, thanks.”
Of course then she’ll think you like her…
That’s a good one. And that way, she’ll feel important. I’m sure she’d like that much better than a smack down.
I’ve had to deal with way too many lawyers in my life. They are all like that! This way, you’ll know you’re smacking her down but she won’t. Life is better that way.
Phew…glad you’re back. I can breath again. They say, “Don’t sweat the little shit”. But it’s the little shit that sometimes drives ya bat shit
Well, I am so pleased that you’re breathing steady again. I don’t wanna be responsible for you not hallucinating anymore. I’ve done my deed for the day, so I’m gonna take me a little nap now.
I would give her some “hints.”
I thnk I’d best be my butt on time and find a seat far away from her, now that I know how to find the place.
I was at my Buddhist meditation group last night and after the meditation, we always have a discussion about some aspect of Buddhist practice. Last night it was on 6 steps to developing peaceful mind-states. We only got through 3 steps. They are:
1. Notice what is unskillful or unwholesome about another person (you did that)
2. Explore what is unskillful or unwholesome about you in reference to that person (what does that person bring up in you that, if you saw those same qualities or behaviors in someone else would drive you crazy?)
3. Decide that you simply will get rid of your unskillful or unwholesome qualities or behaviors, regardless of what the other person does or does not do (let go).
I’ll have to get back to you on the other 3 steps. I hope they are easier than that last one, but I doubt it!
You can well see, I have a few un-something about me but I’ve turned those into qualities. Now, I am a procrastinator but I don’t know if that’s a problem this woman has. I’d like to change that but I don’t see what that has to do with her or the situation. Maybe my being late drove her crazy but I left far in advance to find the place. And now that I feel like I’m going in circles on this, I think I’m gonna stop here.
I’m not good at dealing with that sort of thing. Usually, I ignore the busy-body person or say a quick “thanks” and then do my best not to make eye contact with them again. I probably come across as bitchy and aloof. It’s not that I don’t have a bitchy side (who doesn’t?), but in a meeting, I want to concentrate on what’s being said by the person who actually has the floor.
I’m not good either. I try to be polite, despite my own discomfort. Seems like folk would know when they’re getting on your nerves. I’m good at recognizing when I am.
If you are my friend, you can touch me. If you are an acquaintance, I’m more comfortable if you don’t, unless you are Johnny Dep. I might have just told the woman to “Shsh”, and stopped acknowleding her taps. I might not usually explode, but it depends. I have been known to go off like an IED for not much reason, so there it is. Maybe that happens when I go off my meds.
Johnny can touch me too. So can some other hotties….But I just met this woman, so she doesn’t qualify as an acquaintance yet, I don’t think. I mean, I can’t remember her name even. Maybe if I offered Tic Tacs to her, she’ll be self-conscious but that wouldn’t be nice of me, would it?
Hopefully next time you can sit further away so she can’t reach you. Speaking of “catching up”…..Just thought you’d like to know that I referenced your James Baldwin blog in my review of If Beale Street Could Talk at: http://lisaspiralreads.wordpress.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=208&action=edit&message=6&postpost=v2
Thank you. I hopped over there and very much enjoyed your write-up.
Haven’t been doing much blogging over here but I will do so on a moderate level at some point.
whoops! http://lisaspiralreads.wordpress.com/2013/03/06/if-beale-street-could-talk/
OMG! Tapping is my biggest pet peeve! Than you for bringing this up.
When kids tap me like that over and over I gently grab their fingers and tell (don’t ask, TELL) them to stop. When a grown person taps, I turn around and start tapping them until they freak out and move far away from me. Works on the every time.
Occasionally I do this really great crazy eyes look that I learned riding public transport. I open my eyes WIDE and start swiveling my head around while staring at them. It works wonders to get people away, except sometimes I freak out another rider. It gets awkward because then I am “that crazy lady on the train”.
It’s a most annoying thing, isnt it? I think these type folk, in the case of me at the meeting anyhow, this woman wanted to make herself known to me, for whatever reason. I don’t know why. I wasn’t handing out money or anything.
Ha! That could be it.
I’m with the sneakers and vaseline. I can’t stand people who are that annoying. This is a meeting for crying out loud and she was being downright rude and disruptive.