"Two to Tango" Acrylic on Board. Copyright 2012 Totsymae
A few months ago, I came across this article I deliberately failed to share with you. I mean, we talk a lot about a lot but we haven’t talked about everything. Ever so often, like Squashing, I feel it’s my civic responsibility to bring relevant information to your attention that you haven’t come across yourself. But then, maybe you have the same information I do and, for whatever reason, you don’t wanna talk about it.
Well, I do. Now, you know I’m a huge Dr. Phil fan, right? That’s right. With his bushy ass moustache and all, I love me that doctor. Now. One time, I was watching his show and there was a reporter on there who’d done some very interesting research on pornography. Wasn’t the usual stuff we all know about. Uh uh. This was on a website, where folk paid to watch other folk do the wild thang in the comfort of their homes, at their own convenience. Only thing was this was a married couple and they did it as a means to provide for their family ’cause they were living in a really bad situation and had run out of borrowing time with everybody. Make a long story short, they’re living pretty large now and given the state of the economy, well, they’re saving on gas and are able to spend more time with their daughter. I ain’t even judging ’cause those folk were living without some much needed necessities that you may not even think about and truth is, you really don’t know what you’ll wind up doing when your back is as far against the wall as it’ll go.
Men Suckling Breasts in Public is New Craze in Some African Countries, as Ghana
But. Folks. I came across more information that I simply couldn’t hold out on telling you any longer and I really wanna see how this breast feeding men in public goes over with you. That’s right. Men over in Ghana, Africa are over there suckling from their wives breasts in public. I don’t know what prompts the breast to get whipped out for the guys to suckle on. You know, like, do they argue as a couple and she gives it to him to calm down? Did he leave some kinda medication at home that would normally calm him and she gives a breast to soothe him? Do they pull over to the shoulder of the road after road rage? Is he looking at other women while they’re out together and she pulls his attention back by letting him have a suck or two? You know, I’m just trying to explore all the reasons this would be necessary ’cause, I don’t know, maybe you wanna try it too.
With the divorce rate being as high as it is, at least in the U.S., I thought this might be a valuable piece of information, whether you’re in a financial strain or trying to keep your marriage together. You know, just ’cause my marriage wasn’t a successful one, doesn’t mean I don’t want success for you.
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Suckling houses existed back in the 1600s. Men would have milk squirted into their eyes because they believed this improved their sight. Men also sucked on women’s breasts. Back then, always-pregnant females meant an abundance of mother’s milk. Interesting that the practice should resurface today.
Interesting…This is actually a display Ghana wants to stop. I’m not sure how the trend started again.
Uh, no. Frankly, I am uncomfortable with the practice of mothers continuing to publicly suckle ALL their children, including those in second grade. (It’s one thing letting the older kids have a taste out of curiosity when a new baby joins the family, but on a regular basis… no.)
Once peeps are old enough to open their own juice paks – or order a Red Bull at a bar, for cryin’ out loud, offa the teat, at least in public. If in private you want to play nursing baby games, or wear a diaper, or Batman suit, have at it.
Yes, it is a bit much for me. I’d certainly not want to be in a restaurant and look the next table over to see a grown man suckling. I think it’s demeaning to women.
All I can say is “Lordy”. I think I’m shocked when people get all in a tither about nudity on European beaches. Europeans do not connect nudity with sex. Still, if I saw a grown assed man sucking on a woman’s boob, I think I’d be a little shocked. I’m not shocked by women breast feeding their babies in public. That’s fine with me. But this is a little “off kilter” to my way of thinking. Still, if it’s not hurting anybody, and not scaring the horses, I guess it’s alright.
Dr. Phil. Now he ain’t my cuppa tea at all, but I’ll let you watch him when you come to visit. And I won’t even make cracks about him like I do when I’m home alone.
Lordy , is right. It’s plain silly.
Okay, I certainly would appreciate your respecting my relationship with Dr Phil.
Wish I had known about this seven years ago when I quit smoking. I spent as much on Nicorette as I could have for a trip to South Africa. Just my luck!….(jk). GREAT article and great writing! My very best back to you.
PKC @todayinhh
Thank you.
Any other habits you wanna break, Ghana has the alternative of your liking.
Im speechless LOL!
Bet you never thought of that to put out a little public spat, huh.
Boy, I don’t know what to say about that. To each his own? Nah, that’s not going to work. I do think we’re a bit uptight about things in this country though. Like how can we even be offended when a woman breast feeds her infant in public. We’re not uptight if it’s outta sight, right? She doesn’t look like she’s enjoying it that much and he looks like he’s on crack. LOL
I thought she wasn’t a happy camper about it either. It’s humiliating, after all.
This is a great opportunity to study one’s own ego. Does the thought of this seem offensive, weird or perverted? If you answer yes to that question, then ask yourself this: Is everything that’s different from how you would do it offensive, weird or perverted? Are you perfect? Are you infallible? Should everyone do things the way you believe they should in order to sustain your own comfort?
Not saying I agree or disagree with it. I’m just saying I expect nothing, and so hearing of this doesn’t appall or offend me. To each his own. I can’t help but feel people who are off-put by this are not so different than those who are disgusted by the thought of homosexuality. True, one could argue the public aspect of their displays of affection, but then there’s also something to be said for fearlessness.
Peace & grace,
~Miro
Miro, certainly, I appreciate your response but U really don’t and cannot compare this to how people may examine the gay community. If they started sucking on each other in public, rest assured, I would give them equitable blogging treatment. I mean really, there has to be a line somewhere. Who knows how far his public display of “affection” can go. And look at that woman. Does she look thrilled at all about this suckling business?
“You know, like, do they argue as a couple and she gives it to him to calm down? Did he leave some kinda medication at home that would normally calm him and she gives a breast to soothe him?” … hilarious.
What some women will do …
That’s what I say. She needs to smack him upside the head.
I can see it coming. Boobathons world over because of nipplemania.
Ahem…let’s not get excited over there.
First I laughed, then I thought WHAT ! and believe me nothing surprises me ‘cus I’m a Social Worker but this is a bridge too far for me !
I’m all for breast feeding babies in public after all women’s breasts are designed to feed babies !
By the way I LOVE your Tango picture Totsymae
Initially, I didn’t know whether to laugh or feel sorry for that woman.
And thank you. Glad you like the painting.
Tots, one of these days I am going to choke so badly trying not to laugh out loud at your posts, that I will be forevemore known as “Granbee Smurf’! But I don’t think this African custom of public nipple lipping is so very different from the “bangers” of the 90′s sucking on pacifiers while dancing and doing up the chemicals, you know? Why, oh, why did Eve ever pick that apple and give it to Adam and leave us in this totally messed up psychological state about all matters relating to the procreating process?
Bangers? I’ll have to look that up. Never heard of that.
I don’t think we were ever made to remain innocent in that garden. I mean, had they not eaten those fruit, I’m pretty sure I would’ve grabbed me one and went to hide somewhere to eat it.
Great painting. OMFG I fail to understand what the hell is going. Some days, I just sit with my head in my lap going “where am I?” Maybe, I’ve gotten lost.
Can I just say that Africa is a STRANGE place? Just consider, they’ve had corrective rape (to cure lesbians) which I understand has now been outlawed, in Nigeria they are now battling the gov’t to abolish mandatory jail sentences for gay marriage and on the tail of these discoveries, comes THIS.
You KILL me Totsymae lol. Thank you for broadening my knowledge of cultural norms, at least it’s not violent LMAO. I wonder if lesbians will get the same privilege….Oy.
For all that you do, I am pleased to award you the Liebster Award. Please check my latest post at http://cocorivers.wordpress.com/2012/01/09/liebster-blog-awards-paying-it-forward/
Thank you, Coco.
I don’t think lesbians would enjoy the suckling privileges over there. And doesn’t that woman look miserable?
Thank you also for the award.
That’s a look of long suffering patience, presumably for the camera (they don’t fool me lol). But hey, they could always so aw hell no. As to the lesbians, never say never! You’re welcome
Well…
Hehehhehe! I know.
I’m not all that surprised what people can come up with when their very survival is at issue; I’ve done some stuff I can’t say I’m exactly proud of when keeping my ass and my family’s above water was called for.
This public nipple sucking is not only juvenile but it looks patently ridiculous, which is probably it’s being done. It’s “shocking” to “civilized” people and, indeed, when a woman here pulls out a tit to nurse her child, some of us actually get embarrassed by it and as I recall, there was a movement to make public breast feeding illegal some time ago.
That’s what I say. I mean, they seemed to be a nice couple. I ain’t judging or mad at them. They were truly struggling.
Yes, that suckling is very ridiculous. They need to quit playin’.
—Yes, I;ve heard about those horny dudes sucking their mates tits…and it seriously turns my stomach. It’s not about getting milk, babe; it’s not about needing nurishment….it’s about sex/\…. and men that can’t let go of thier mamas.
OmG, and what the hell is wrong w/ those women?
I’m all for breast-feeding, but this takes it to an entire new level.
Grosssssss.
It’s so silly, I think. I mean, why in public when they just left the house?
You’ve got to be joking! I’m surprised my Ghanian friends didn’t tell me about this trend. What’s going on with our men? From baggy pants to suckling in public? Sounds like they need help.
She may be embarrassed. I’ll go with the baggy pants any day than look at this.
I have a dear friend from Ghana and she would have smacked that guy upside the head. It seems more like an attention grab, the desire for 15 minutes of fame is everywhere I guess. Ick.
Love the painting. Your colors are always so vibrant and your paintings so full of movement. I just love them.
Thank you.
It is an attention grabber indeed. And the woman looks so miserable to me.
Totsy, I love how you sift out the obscure information of the day. While absolutely fascinating that this is going on in Ghana, it would never, never fly in the US of A. We’re too prudish a nation for that. Though, for once, I’m glad we are!
I’m glad we are too.
I’m movin’ to Ghana. Right after I post my latest romp with the wife.
You’re a mess…:-)
That’s some kind of hunger! Someone please toss them a few rolls – geez.
With butter. They already have the milk.
LOL Well, girl, you may just have saved a marriage or two, as long as they can pay the fines for public obscenity, that is, LOL LOL
I’m still reeling over the fact that you like Dr. Phil. Different strokes for different folks. And speaking of that, if my guy needs my boob in public to stay calm and feel my love, then he’s the boob.
Wow is all I can say on this post!
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