"Dancing with My Baby" Acrylic on Board Copyright 2011 Totsymae
I really make it my business to learn something new every single day. Whether that leads me to opening up a dictionary or reading up on something or what have you, I pride myself on being a lifelong learner of sorts. There’s so much information to be had out there and seriously, I aim to soak up as much as I can. Sometimes though, I get surprised.
I don’t know how many of you ever actually peeped over there on my little bio but it ain’t all that, I admit but it’s who I am. Sometimes, I ponder on my transparency here. You know, do I say too much or do I need to pack up my suitcase and hit the road. Then again, it’s not like I’m telling y’all anything on the real personal side though. And quite frankly, I don’t wanna bore you with a buncha shit going on over this way. I mean damn, I’m typing with one hand and yawning to think on just how bored I could make you.
However, good folks, being the lifelong learner that I am, I feel bound to sharing relevant information with you as I come across it. I genuinely care about you folks and I want you to be in the know. I only hope you’d do the same for me. Or maybe this here thing that came upon me is something you’re already into. When you look at the scope of the internet, there’s absolutely no limit on what you may come across and incorporate into your own personal life.
Now, I know that blog title got you all excited and you damn near broke your fingers on the keyboard trying to see what this fetish was all about. I know, ’cause y’all probably got a little freak-nasty up in you and whatnot or had one at one time and just retired your freak-nasty side on account of age or health. But oh boy, if you could turn back time, Lordy mercy for the soul you set eyes on and clamped a hold onto!
On the for real side though folks, sex is bigger than politics and religion put together, aint it? You remember that one politician who’d go in the airport restrooms and get to tapping his foot in the stall to signal he wanted some sex from another man? I mean, sex was so important to him that he risked it all. Had a good career going, wife and family who loved him dearly. What blew me away was this fella had to be in his early 60s. That freakish nature had a good grip on him, even as he was closer to meeting his Maker. I mean, I’d think his mind had flipped over to the Lord than foot-tapping in some public facility, you?
Just this year, there was this woman I worked with who got herself in steep trouble from sexting with a minor. Now, exactly what that boy was gonna do for her that her husband couldn’t, I ain’t figured it out to this day. You know, I just haven’t directioned my mind to explore folk like that. After I got to watching this little video the other day that was dug up for me, I can only imagine there’s some outta this world sexing going on in these bedrooms out here! On the other hand, I got to thinking a little further on this fetish thing to the point I was scratching my head up. If you think dressing up in a little see-through number from Victoria’s Secret alone is gonna keep the home fires burning, think again folks. It’s the fetish thing that’s in now. I advise you to get with the program to get your little groove on in a creative fashion to keep your hunka burning love or your bad mammajamma. Now, I ain’t hardly got enough weight on me to pull this off but I figure if I put on a football suit and tackled the hell out of a guy, I may just have me a fetish going myself. Check this out, folks.
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Another fab painting. You have a loyal subscriber in me from now on. Color, composition, movement, depth – you are very talented indeed.
Thank you, Carl. Such kind words are always nice to hear
from another artist.
I still have my freak-nasty on! Or up? Both! To the grave, baby. To the grave, I’m taking it! Fun piece, great tone, great voice.
Ooooh, I’m sure with a name like Hot Butter, you’ll always have
your freak-nasty going on. LOL!! I’m actually encouraged now. Thanks
for hanging out and for your kind words.
I love your Dancing with my Baby piece. So fluid. I can see them dancing. The colors are so brilliant, capturing the mood of the dancers. I used to paint a lot (just for fun) and acrylics were my favorite choice for my art.
Now this squashing business is plain weird if you ask me. I like your version of wearing a football uniform. So much better and probably even more romantic.
Thanks, Monica.
Start picking up the brush again from time to time
and have fun with it again.
Yes, the squashing is weird and a game of chance too! I can’t imagine.
I’ll go with the football gig anytime, as opposed to letting a big guy
squash me.
I can’t hit the play button on that one…just can’t do it! But yea, people are interesting creatures, that is for sure!
Awwww, Michael Ann. That’s the fun part. Hehehee! Go ahead
and press that button. Nobody’s gonna know but you.
Love it! (I couldn’t watch the vid either, I’m chicken that way but admire you for your clicker abilities.)
You bring up very good points. Is it the nastier you get, the hotter the fires are or is it just the weird finding the weird and the rest of us content with the garter belts and high heels with an occasional costume thrown in staring at them in disbelief?
Makes a mind wonder though especially after a rumor about a cup I heard was on the Internet. Couldn’t bear to watch that either, but that didn’t stop people from telling me about it. (Lord help me)
Am I hearing right that you painted that gorgeous picture there up on top? Wow. That’s serious skill there. Serious. Skill.
Thank you, Zencherry.
Yeah, I guess flames gotta keep going some kinda way, so squashing
is it, girlfriend. LoL! Those people couldn’t stop telling you because
what they had to say excited them too, yeah?
Yes, I paint the pictures here. Glad you like and thank you again.
Love your blog too, by the way.
Thanks! I saw you came by there. (Means a lot to me that you’d read my yadayada)
I think the people that told me though, (the cup thing), were just happy watching me slap my hands over my ears and threatening them with whatever was at hand. My shoe DID connect w/one of them, so there’s that.
I’m all for some extra spice in the sex life, especially as you get a bit older, but there is a big difference between adding a touch of spice and just plain smothering and overpowering what’s cooking. That’s a lot of woman to take on there, figuratively AND literally. I guess that’s one fetish that does nothing for me – not my
cuper… caldron of tea. At. All. But it did make me chuckle nonetheless.Normally what goes on in the privacy of a bedroom doesn’t concern me, but good lord, making a video and going on a TV show is not exactly the privacy of a bedroom now, is it???
As usual Totsy, the artwork is nice. I like the color palette of your acrylic works.
Yeah, pretty bold to go on national television with this. She definitely
comes off as a very confident woman.
Glad you like the artwork. One of my first pieces which sold when I was
. As always, thanks for swinging.
doing shows. I miss those two
love the painting, it is a great one. what inspired you to attached video. I am just LMAO is hilarious the one getting done seems to be having some mental health issue lolzzzzzz
This cant be fetish, parhaps fatish……….. i rekon. lolzzzzzzzzz
Glad you like the painting. I had to add the video so everyone could
actually see the fetish. Worth it since you got such a kick out of it.
It makes me wonder how one can find a joy under the weight ,,,,,,,,, lolzzzzzzzzzzz i guess never seen that kinda stuff. but on the other hand I must become an admirer of your thought.. hahaha
It’s all new to me too and like I said, I like spreading my knowledge. You
know, in case I have information that may be useful. From here, you
can take it where you want. I’m not advocating strange-type behavior
but everybody, as you’ve witnessed here, get their groove on in
some way or another.
It was very informative though, It makes me aware of occupational health and safety…. LOLzzz
Now I did see a special on Showtime that talked about “feeders”. These are normal sized me who love fat women. They feed them massive amounts of food with the ultimate goal of getting them immobile from their weight. (Seems to me that to get them just right, they have to be near death.) Anyhoo, this seemed very strange to me. I mean, I still have a few kinks and like to get my freak on, (even in my mid-60′s.), how some ever, this stuff is weird to me. The documentary showed women of 400 pounds and up being fed trying to get to 1,000 pounds. And the men were attractive enough and seemed normal and intelligent except for this fetish about wanting fat and immobilized women. (Okay, Totsy, I realize that’s a little like sayin’ “Other than that Mrs. Lincoln, how’d you like the play?”). A couple of years ago, Alex and I were at an art gallery and they were showing a premier movie. I struck up a conversation with a woman who told me she was a “Sex Worker”. Well, hot damn! She was not what I expected at all. I’d say she was in her 50′s and rather big, (meaning tall and muscular, not fat). She told me that she made a great living as a dominatrix. Now I always have figured I’d make a good dominatrix. I’d get to wear those hot leather clothes, the high heeled boots, and carry a whip. Yeah, I could do that. The only thing is, I’m lazy. I’d probably turn down most of the tricks because although I still have sexual stuff in my life, most of the time it’s with my husband. Going to some dude’s hotel room to beat his ass is just too much trouble since I really don’t need the money. It might be fun, in a way, but putting on my face, and getting all geared up in leather, well, like I said, I’m lazy. Where was I? I think I got off topic here and for that I apologize.
That woman on the Dr. Drew show was very pretty. Now she was a little big, I grant you, but her face was gorgeous, her hair looked good, and I liked her dress. I love the painting you did. In fact, it puts me in mind of some of that wonderful Josephine Baker art if you know what I’m talking about.
1000 lbs???? Geeeeezzzz! That’s even more strange than squashing.
But I’m with you on the whole dominatrix idea. I’m too lazy to make that
effective. A guy would probably take the whip and use it on me ’cause
I can see me saying, “Uh uh, I changed my mind. I’m going back home.”
That’s more work than I wanna put in.
Yes, the woman in the video was pretty and exuded confidence as well.
I am familiar with the type of art you speak of. Glad you like the one here
as well.
In my 2nd sentence above, I wrote “these are normal sized me”, and of course I meant “These are normal sized men”.
Thank for helping with my diet today, as I no longer have the desire to eat lunch….
Sorry about that.
But yes, this is one way to start eating consciously.
Love your painting, again!
Regarding fetishes – whether it’s a woman’s fat, or deformed feet from binding (Japan – an extremely painful and debilitating practice from not that long ago), or the cutting out of young girls’ clitorises when they aren’t even under anasthesia, to murder and rape – to me it’s all fetish and it stems from people (mostly men, even though females are definitely co-conspirators) who are under the sway of sensationalism, who need the prodding of the unusual or criminal in order to feel ANYTHING.
I’ve got my theories as to what, how and why… But those will go into my novel. “Fiction” seems to make the message more palatable.
Thank you.
No disputing your message. I was just having a conversation about female
circumcisions and feet-binding a few days ago. When choices aren’t there,
as in the case of African girls and Asian women, we do have to examine
the patriarchal societies as they exist. But where a woman can be decisive
in her role, well, she has to examine her own self worth.
there’s no accounting for taste !
Hmmm…
First, that painting was stunning! And your post was hilarious. You baited us good, my friend–from the title all the way to the end. “Life long learner” that’s so good it’s BAAAAD!
Thank you, Lorna.
Yes, I did reel you in. Had yourself a good laugh, I see.
Oh my goodness. And I thought pedal-pumping was weird. (I know you all are Googling that now, lol!)
The things that turn people on, unbelievable.
As our your paintings – but those are unbelievable in a GOOD way.
OMG were my words exactly.
Yeah, I googled it. All I saw were women trying to crank a car in
stilettos. Is that all there is to it? Inquiring minds wanna know.
If that’s all to it, I think squashing looks more fun.
A splendid acrylic “Dancing with my baby” can feel the beat and heat just looking at your artwork, Totsymae.
On t’uther hand the genesis of fetishes, well, therein lies a tale or two, some sad, some bad, some mad.
But what a few folk call stimulating just plain discombobbles me – here I too sit “scratching my head up”, cheers catchul8r molly
Glad you like “Dancing with My Baby.” I love painting people dancing
since I’m not all that good at it myself.
This fetish is all you describe – sad, mad and bad. The mind can only
assemble so much to make sense of things. This won’t be one of them.
Catch U later, Molly.
—-All I can say is “WHAT THE FUCKKKKKKK? ”
I’m speechless (for once) xxx
(Shrugging my shoulders) I was about to catch flies with my mouth
gaped open too.
I’d say the same thing My Inner Chick said, “WTF !!!!!” . What surprised me is not that woman and that man, what or should I say who surprised me is Dr. Drew….. his team must find something or someone else to work with…..
Well, that’s says it all as far as what a lot of people would think.
Sex ain’t what it used to be judging by the video – horrible visual. I hope its not the lady that’s eating herself to death because her husband has a fat fetish. Being risque in the bedroom I can’t understand, but some of that stuff makes you wonder if the participants aren’t in need of psychological counseling. I guess I just old fashion. Your story telling is comical as usual.
Yes, it’s quite a visual indeed. I suppose this woman works the weight
to her advantage but like yourself, I’m old fashioned too. The far out stuff
blows my mind. Glad you liked the storytelling. I’m a great admirer of your
writing as well.
Ouch !!!
Wow…this one caught me off-guard. I showed it to my husband and he crinkled up his left eyebrow like he was truly hurting and left the room. I’m sorry but I find this disgusting…but hilarious. We truly are living in a David Lynch movie set, only he has left the building and the characters are running amok.
I felt like I was being sat, looking at that man suffer, even at his own will.
Hubby couldn’t take the pain, huh. I think this kind of pleasure is rare. If
not, us smaller women are in trouble.
Now that’s a crazy chick who’s being all that she can be. She won’t ever need to go on a diet. I say eat up baby and keep those “men” happy. Now, I say every one has got their inner freak going on and if the inner freak is into getting sat on by “voluMptuous” chicks more power to them. I think it’s more hygienic than being into feet …
And she makes no apologies for who she is either. She’s a bold chick,
that’s for sure.
Absolutely and I respect bold chicks.
Going to FB this post on the CCC page 
Got it from your FB page, LFR. Holy smokers… just when I thought fetishes couldn’t get any stranger… but then, that’s what they are in the first place… so not judging… just LMAO… crazy funny.
Oh glad you found it on the CCC. I try to share on that page as much as I can
Again, thank you for sharing. I’m glad I met Aurora. She was over there
on her blog telling it like it T-I-S!!!!
Holy smoker, wtf and all that! Glad to meet you, Aurora.
I can’t watch the video really don’t want to know but I will say that being in love also means having good sex! Without good sex the relationship is doomed! I once heard the two common reasons people get divorced is because the sex isn’t doing it for them or finances! Those internet dating sites could match up compatibility in two areas and probably charge a lot less and make more relationships work if sex and finances were the two main criteria! Just a thought!
I’ve heard those are the two reasons as well. I would think the sex could be
fixed easier than finances? Idk…
WTF??? I’m trying to just get some!
Whatever floats their boat, I guess. But damn!
Your painting says it all. Nice job, as usual.
WTF seems to be a popular response. Glad you like the painting
though. Thanks.
How in the world did he escape without broken ribs? I’m with Dr. Drew on this one – I’m good!
Maybe since it’s one of his guilty pleasures, he’s built the resilience to
survive. I was out of breath just watching it.
Totsy, I’ll have you know that once I clicked on the link you provided for the squashing, I had to keep clicking on the other YouTube related videos. I could not believe what my eyes were seeing! Are you kidding me? Have these people lost their minds and really, has no one been sent to the hospital with broken ribs, diaphragm and chest cavity? That said, I love, love your painting on this post! The fluidity and sense of motion are amazing!
You naughty girl, you. I don’t know if the danger overrides the fetish.
I think they have lost at least a piece of their mind. That’s so
weird.
Two thoughts:
You paint magnificently.
Your term “freak-nasty” … this is more nasty than freak. Seriously. Nothin on you, but what are those dudes thinking?
Thank you.
Oh, not offended at all. I can only assume these guys need therapy.
NOW!
Hey, don’t go knocking us old folks! I’m 56 and there’s still plenty of freaky left in me… ‘cept I’m not gonna be hanging out in airport bathrooms…
Great post, great artwork! You are now being followed…
Well, I can’t rightly express that I’m glad you’re not an airport restroom hanger-outter. I was thinking why might you be drawn to this particular post on your first visit, being that there are so many more, hopefully, interesting posts. But like you say, if the freak’s there, I can see it. Go ‘head, Mr. 56.
I was about to enjoy a plate of home made pasta with my special Sicilian sausage when i watched this fuckin video. You are not right.
One question before I go regurgitate…are these your paintings I see on each article you write? They look as if I’ve seen every one before. My wife was an art major and a magnificent artist before she died, and she dragged me to art galleries all over this planet…are these yours?
I’m sorry for spoiling your appetite.
Yes, I painted the art on the here. Your wife was a smart and cultured woman. (wink, wink)
AND…she had excellent taste in men.
Oh yes, of course. That goes without saying.